It has been close to 18 years , yes around that many years ago that I became a father. My son delivered a father who is an adult now. Yes the father is an adult, isn't it.
Looking back at this "adult father " is an interesting proposition and I now want to reflect on this journey.
The first thing that comes to my mind is that whether being a "father" is same as being a "parent" .I think it is not . Honestly I had absolutely no idea of what is to be a parent. We tend to assign words to many things but never reflect on their significance. I am no different. I have not reflected but will now do and will share that with you.
All that I remember now is that it was a very new and different feeling, which is difficult to put in words. Over these many years there has been a new realisation that there is someone whom you have manufactured, in some sense. You have a kind of ownership of this entity. You have a kind a responsibility to make this creature comfortable. Yes these are the earliest memories that I have that the kid should be fed sufficiently, should have a sound sleep and must be ready to play with us. The initial few years were the time when it was a toy. All wanted to play with the child.
As the years have passed , realise that both the conscious and the subconscious is at play to "make" this creature someone like you and also "not" someone like you.
Looking back at this "adult father " is an interesting proposition and I now want to reflect on this journey.
The first thing that comes to my mind is that whether being a "father" is same as being a "parent" .I think it is not . Honestly I had absolutely no idea of what is to be a parent. We tend to assign words to many things but never reflect on their significance. I am no different. I have not reflected but will now do and will share that with you.
All that I remember now is that it was a very new and different feeling, which is difficult to put in words. Over these many years there has been a new realisation that there is someone whom you have manufactured, in some sense. You have a kind of ownership of this entity. You have a kind a responsibility to make this creature comfortable. Yes these are the earliest memories that I have that the kid should be fed sufficiently, should have a sound sleep and must be ready to play with us. The initial few years were the time when it was a toy. All wanted to play with the child.
As the years have passed , realise that both the conscious and the subconscious is at play to "make" this creature someone like you and also "not" someone like you.
Congratulations. This is a great beginning of 18 years of your journey ever since you became a father. Will eagerly wait for more post in this series. Best Wishes. Rachna
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